Match.com

June 2, 2014




Yes,  I'm trying another on line dating service after the disastrous experience with eHarmony. And so far I'm not faring much better. I still remember being told by a former acquaintance that online dating is not for people of a certain age. I'm starting to think he may be right.


I feel like I'm selling a used car. Trying to promote my best features in 50 words or less. Or is it 250 words? But really it would take a lot longer to describe how truly wonderful I really am!!! Maybe I'm indescribable! That must be the problem. I get confused between the winks and the faves and the "likes." I'm not in high school anymore and never liked that stuff even when I was.


Margo, don't read this next part. As soon as I respond to anyone with a few details about myself I never hear back from the potential "date." I really try to honestly describe myself to people who express interest. There's no point in wasting anyones' time. I don't have a lot of time left and I've always liked getting right to the point. So I tell them I am irreverent and sarcastic, but in a good way. My kids will always come first. I'm not looking for someone to "complete" me. I am still a work in progress and hope I always will be. I'm not looking for a soul mate. I thought I had one and look how wrong I was about that. I'm not waiting to be rescued or taken care of. Margo, I know you are reading this even though I warned you not to, and you are shaking your head. And pretty soon you are going to try to call me to"discuss" my attitude.


But let me tell you about the men and what they want. LOTS of them want a woman who is "athletic and toned" or "slender." (Match descriptions)  Some of them can't spell. Many of them don't like to read. They ALL love the outdoors, hiking, kayaking, down hill skiing, etc. Really? Some of them look like they can't get up from their recliners. One guy wrote that he liked 'curvy" (another Match word) women and lingerie. I had to read that several times because I was sure it was a typo. But my favorites are the men who are "currently separated." Can't you even wait until the divorce is final to look for a new mate? That's like claiming you are single even though you are living with your girlfriend.


So after the three month subscription is over I will most likely cancel this. One thing I learned from this whole experience is that I don't have to settle for something that is "far from ideal." And now that George is getting married I may just have to resign myself to a life alone!

eHarmony Dropout

October 14, 2013



Today when I get home from work I am going to cancel my subscription to eHarmony. My three month signup period will be over soon and I don't want to be automatically billed for another three months. I was a total failure at online dating.


I've spent some time thinking about the reasons for this fact. Is it because I said in my profile that I have kids? I noticed most men don't claim adult children in their profile. It's only when you read further that they mention them. Why? Adult or otherwise my kids will always be the best part of me. I can't imagine EVER checking a box that says I don't have them.


Is it because I am not attractive enough? I know I'm not a beauty queen but I don't think I'm that hard to look at. And judging from the pictures I've seen, George Clooney is not trolling eHarmony. I have noticed that most men in my age group are (according to them) 1. "Into exercise and outdoor activities" 2. Ride a motorcycle or have a sports car. 3. Any man who answered the question about their sex drive claimed theirs was "high." Really guys? If only I had invested in Pfizer or Eli Lilly stock. One man came right out and stated he wanted to date as many women as possible but most were looking for their "soul mate." Another one said the first thing people notice about him was that he was tall and good looking! Wow. What a catch.


Okay, so maybe it's because I am slightly cynical. But most of all I'm gun shy. When the person you trusted more than anyone in the whole world can spend years looking right into your eyes while lying it's hard to trust anyone else. I know I just have to start with a cup of coffee! But even that scares me.


So maybe it's not eHarmony's fault but my own. I guess I'm not really ready to market myself on line. I will go back to just hoping that, when I least expect it, I will meet someone who will want to have an adult relationship. In the meantime I will continue to sleep curled around my pillows.

eHarmony

August 5, 2013



A friend sent me a link for a free weekend with eHarmony in early July. I decided to try it and see what would happen. Well, so far NOTHING!!! I was told by someone at the start that online dating would not work for someone my age. I guess he was right. But it's worth a try, right?


I really want to meet the DOCTOR in the commercial who claims they read your profile and match you up with someone of similar interests!! Ha. They have sent me matches of people who don't drink, are extremely conservative, want someone who can share their deep religious faith and don't like to travel. Who read MY profile? If you know me at all you can clearly see that these are not appropriate matches. So what did they do? Sort by age? Anyone in my age group who is not dead??? OMG!!


When I told Margo what I was doing she said, "Try to be nice." What does that mean? "Write a nice profile," she said.  But I'm a sarcastic bitch (sometimes) and I can't lie (all the time.) I want to put that right up front. But I have soooo many redeeming qualities as well. So I tried to focus on those but still no takers!!! A few people expressed interest but one lives in Illinois and the other won't send a picture! And surprisingly EVERY guy thinks Valentines Day is SWEET! Really???


So maybe I should go with my original profile. Woman of a certain age, intelligent, warm, hard working, great sense of humor.(I think) Fairly good cook. Loves to travel, eat out, go to movies, plays, concerts and sporting events. Except for the year preceding my divorce have never been skinny but do not take up two seats on a plane. Love the beach as long as I can read and lay in the sun. Does not want to parasail, play frisbee, bungee jump or any sport that I have to freeze my ass off to master. As stated before CAN be a sarcastic bitch but in a good way. I am also loud and bossy sometimes. BUT if you are my friend I will be loyal and true. How's that, Margo? Nice enough?